“It’ll make you stop being such a judgmental bitch,” was how she put it.“You’ll have to be nice to people.” Online dating was, in my bitchy and judgmental estimation, for women who wanted to get married, stat, and were willing to settle for whatever turned up a few clicks away.I’ve noticed the same themes playing out among the worst online daters.Some men have learned to obscure the ugliest parts of their personalities on online dating sites, hoping you won’t notice their jealousy issues, racism, or stupidity. This list often includes the phrase “no crazy chicks.”What It Means: I’m not so stable myself.The sheer volume of potential mates helps turn the tables even further.At a time when women are told that we’re getting too old and successful to find suitable partners, online dating offers us the buffet of options men have traditionally enjoyed.I understand that mainstream pornography has led you to believe that any woman who says she’s bisexual is down to touch anyone’s genitals, anywhere, under any circumstances.
Men who sexually fetishize women who look underage aren’t just fetishizing underage girls—although that’s disturbing enough.Most online dating sites have a “what you’re looking for” section. Dudes who are positive that bitches be crazy are also dudes who are willing to write off anything you say as “insane” if it’s something they don’t want to hear.If someone uses that section as an opportunity to vent about everything they hate, they are a bad-finder who will sniff out all of your faults. They’re convinced that much of the female population is mentally unstable because they have on occasion run into females who believe they are entitled to their own thoughts, opinions, and rights—and exercise the right not to be interested in No Crazies guy.Yes, women are socialized to believe that they need to look 18 forever and aging makes you ugly.Yes, men are aware that women are socialized thusly, and may conclude that it’s a compliment to say, “Wow, you look so young!